By crawling into the mold built by one's own efforts- then claiming it to be yours; you'd only steer yourself further, break walls of trust- and what's worse is that it'll never be enough.
..because people have expectations, and to a particular extent you will feel a need to feed them. You'd be hungry for more of others' molds- until finally, finally- you can no longer succumb;
and you'd be losing whatever it is that you feel true to you.
But the process, I believe, serves its purpose, that is- to help you grow- to accept your own breaking points, to actually build yourself a mold- and finally, to welcome all those that deserve the person you really are- in which ever way your flaws may surface, eliminating incompatibility along the way.
We are all different forms of energy- create your own light.
Beam.